Long-Distance Marriage
This phenomenon is not a new trend. Throughout history, there have always been those who, disregarding societal norms, live as they see fit, even within the confines of marriage. Whether it's good or bad is a matter for the individuals involved to decide.
In an era of universal emancipation, a marriage where husband and wife live in separate apartments, cities, or even countries, surprises few.
This phenomenon is not new. Throughout history, there have always been those who, disregarding societal norms, live as they see fit, even within the confines of marriage.
Whether it's good or bad is a matter for the individuals involved to decide.
However, the problems that arise with the popularization of a guest marriage are society's problems. Initially, the emergence of a guest marriage was driven by the fact that busy, financially stable individuals whose work and commitments demanded constant presence arranged their family lives in such a way that neither the husband nor the wife interfered with their work. It may sound strange to most of us, but that's how it was.
In families of actors and other professionals primarily engaged in creative pursuits rather than household matters, this is the norm. This doesn't mean that no one cares for each other in such families. Not at all. It's just that the degree of responsibility for each other is so low that it is inconsequential. Each person takes responsibility for themselves. In reality, the duration of a guest marriage is not long. If there are genuine feelings between the partners, they eventually go through the stage of flirting with freedom and start living in a traditional marriage. Sooner or later, it happens. Or it doesn't. In essence, this guest marriage is just a regular marriage. The outcome of which can be either divorce or a strong family.
Problems arise when people do not understand what a "guest marriage" actually is. Such a marriage can be seen as a kind of engagement, a prelude to real family life, but problems arise when people seriously believe that living separately and calling it a family is normal.
The first problem is the absence of responsibility. Separate apartments. Nothing to divide. Different jobs. No need to allocate money. An illusion of a relationship is created that, in reality, does not exist. And both partners can break it at any moment.
The second problem. If children appear in such a marriage, this family becomes a single-parent family. For men, in many cases, this is a favorable position.
The third problem. Guest marriage is often a contract marriage, characterized by a market-driven nature. You scratch my back, I scratch yours. At some point, the question arises: where are the feelings?
However, sociologists claim that in the near future, it is precisely the guest marriage that will become the norm in society.
In such a marriage, several seemingly unsolvable problems are resolved. The main problem is getting used to each other. This problem does not arise in a guest marriage.
Here, feelings take a back seat to their comfort for both spouses. The comparisons are quite banal. Imagine eating buckwheat porridge every day. After a month, you will come to hate it. So, the "partner" becomes akin to food. Imagine such a recipe for happiness: "Groomed, freshly from the salon and tanned in a sunbed, wife to be received three to four times a month before bedtime. Preferably on odd days and, under no circumstances, on Sundays."
An alternative to a guest marriage may soon be an Internet marriage. Why not? Internet sex (safe and comfortable) is precisely what those in guest marriages are concerned about: comfort and personal safety.
